My Husband is Not My Best Friend

When we met, we came together with speed and vigor. There was no easing in. Within a month, we dating, within six months, we married. We've never had that much in common. Basic values and goals, sure, but in terms of interests and activities, we couldn't be more different. 

An introvert and an extrovert.

I'm happier snuggled with a book indoors while he'd rather socializing with people or go to a play. He is implusive to my cautious. He's kind of a relaxed, chill-person when I'm a fast-paced person. He's fun, easy going and fun-loving while I prefer to be alone and doesn't socialize with random people. That's why I told you at first, with so many differences how could we be best friends? They are friends because they have things in common or because they can connect on some issue, circumstance, or belief. But in this differences we help each other see "the other side" so we are more well-rounded and more open-minded. He makes sure we have fun, I make sure we stay safe. He makes sure we have enough money for our dreams, I make sure we can pay that month's electric bill. I make sure he eats well, he makes sure I treat myself. Our lives are completely intertwined and we like it that way.

And again, no. My husband is not my best friend. I have never been so angry at a best friend that I wanted to throw something. I've never cried over something a best friend has done or said. I've never literally ached in my bones from missing a best friend. I've never looked at a best friend and been emotionally overwhelmed by the intensity of my feelings in that moment. No, my husband is not my best friend. He's much, much more.

Friendship take effort, but it is not the same as partnership, the latter takes a lot more work, sacrifice, and endurance. Having a life partner is having a boat to remain afloat in a storm, it's a relationship that deserves infinitely more distinct title than a friend. To me, my husband is a person with whom I will build a life together, share my dreams, hopes, and sorrows. He does and will continue to fulfill a part of my life that no one else can, so yes he will not be my best friend but he will always be the person constant in my life.

I dedicated this post to my husband on his birthday. Happy birthday, baby❤

Disclaimer:

I'm certainly not saying marriages should exist without the foundation of friendships, I'm simply saying that marriages could exist and thrive successfully without the couple being the best of friends and that's ok.

Photo Credit: @cristina_gottardi